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Have you been hurt by a narcissistic, toxic, or abusive partner?
Do you suspect or know that your partner is a narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath? Or maybe you are searching for answers because your partner is no longer the person you fell in love with. You can't make sense of their cruel, erratic, crazy-making behavior or their Jekyll and Hyde personality. "Toxic" may be the best description you can find to make sense of the abuse you've experienced.
The truth is, you don't have to be an expert who can diagnose your partner to know that something is deeply wrong.
You may be a survivor of a "pathological love relationship" or a "PLR."
Does this mean you are crazy or pathological?
NO. You are not crazy! But it does mean that your partner could have traits or a full-blown diagnosis of narcissistic, antisocial, or borderline personality disorder. They could also be a psychopath. Regardless of whether we have an answer to this, at the end of the day, their personality "pathology" will lead to inevitable harm if you are their partner. We call this a "pathological love relationship," (a PLR) a term coined by Sandra L. Brown, MA, my mentor and a pioneer in the field of research and treatment of survivors of this type of abuse.
You don't have to be an expert to diagnose your partner. Instead, one telltale way to know if you've been in a PLR is that you may be experiencing what we call the "hallmark trauma symptom" of a pathological love relationship. This is called "COGNITIVE DISSONANCE," another concept coined by Sandra L. Brown, MA.
If you find yourself constantly thinking or obsessing over confusing thoughts about your partner or your relationship, you are likely experiencing it. You may feel overwhelmed with confusion and "looped thinking" centered around trying to decide if your partner is essentially good or bad, healthy or unhealthy. Cognitive dissonance can sound like this:
- He's my soulmate./He's my abuser.
- She's so loving./She's so cruel.
- This is the best relationship./This is an abusive relationship.
- I would never tolerate abuse./Why do I keep tolerating this abuse?
CD can be debilitating and can make it feel impossible to leave, or to fully heal after you've left because you're still reeling with indecision about your partner and the relationship.
THIS IS A SYMPTOM OF TRAUMA AND INDICATES YOU HAVE BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A PATHOLOGICAL PARTNER.
If you have experienced a pathological love relationship, you have experienced TRAUMA, which requires a specialized healing approach that your typical coaches, YouTube experts, and even uninformed, inexperienced therapists may not be able to offer. Keep reading to learn more...
YOU ARE NOT ALONE, AND YOU ARE NOT CRAZY. THIS IS NOT YOUR TYPICAL BREAKUP.
The effects of narcissistic abuse or a pathological love relationship can be devastating.
If you answered YES to any of these questions, you are in the right place. Whether you are currently debating leaving a partner, or you've been out for days, months, or years but can't seem to heal, there is hope.
You may have no idea where to start or whom to turn to. It is common to feel like you're living in a fog, as the effects of gaslighting, stress, and trauma can leave your mind, body, heart, and spirit in a frazzled, rundown state of intense stress.
I have almost 30 years of clinical experience in helping women just like you, and I'm also a survivor of narcissistic abuse. I get it.
That's why I developed The Nest, a safe, deeply transformative, trauma-informed program that can help you break free from narcissistic, pathological, and toxic relationship patterns for good.
In this 8-week online program, you will learn:
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Psychotherapist, Coach, Author, Survivor.
I'm a Licensed Professional Counselor in Denver, Colorado, and I've been a therapist for almost 30 years. In the early part of my career, I worked in community mental health, child welfare, and domestic violence shelters.
After sixteen years, I left my job and created my own private practice, which later grew into a successful group practice, Trilogy Holistic Mental Health. I sold Trilogy in 2021, and have since returned to one of my passions... supporting survivors of narcissistic abuse and pathological love relationships.
My clinical specialties include the treatment of complex trauma (C-PTSD), adult attachment, and pathological love relationships.
I am an active board member of the Association for NPD/Psychopathy Survivor Treatment and Education, and provide public speaking and training on pathological love relationships. I am also a Certified Integrative Mental Health Practitioner, an intuitive, and a Reiki Master. I feel it is important to understand the connection between mind, body, heart, and spirit in our healing.
Most of all, I have experienced narcissistic abuse several times in my life. I understand it from both a personal and clinical viewpoint and am here to help you find healing, insight, and support.
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